A great way to overcome fear is to educate your fear into oblivion.
Consider most people's greatest fear -- public speaking. Public speaking has a lot of variables -- writing and organizing the speech, delivering it with confidence, vocal variety, voice volume and pitch, gestures, body language, eye contact, visual aids, achieving the speech objectives, connecting with the audience, adapting to the audience's response, etc. If you don't have specific knowledge of how to do these things, it will just look like a gaping void of uncertainty and overwhelm, and fear will be the natural response.
Watch any skilled actor or actress, and everything they do seems so natural -- they become their character. But what you don't see is all the subtle baby steps that were taken over a period of years to reach that level of proficiency. One reason people can be genuinely confident instead of fearful in front of a camera or up on a stage is that they took the time to learn exactly what to do.
If you progressively develop your skills by learning from others who have broken it down into bite-sized learnable chunks, then fear diminishes greatly because you know what to do. This is one of the reasons we do impromptu speaking at every Toastmasters meeting. You're expected to do poorly at it initially. But when you do it over and over again, you eventually become comfortable with it, so if you suddenly find yourself faced with an unexpected impromptu speaking situation, you can relax because you know how to handle it.
I had a similar experience when practicing martial arts for several years. When you educate and train yourself to know how to handle an attacker, you become less fearful of being attacked. I remember one of the students at my school was attacked by a would-be mugger when he was only a green belt, and he used what he learned to successfully fend off the attacker without getting himself hurt. Many of the black belts at the school genuinely had no fear of ever being attacked because they knew their reflexes would just take over -- they were actually more worried about hurting someone really badly by accident. Their whole body knew what to do. Somewhere around the time I reached brown belt or red belt, I started experiencing this as well, almost wanting someone to attack me just to see how my body would react from all the conditioning. I found out from others at my school that this is very common. When you know what to do, you not only stop being afraid -- you actually begin to welcome the object of your fear. I'm not suggesting that inviting attacks is a good idea. I'm just saying that education is a powerful way to destroy fear. Uncertainty breeds fear; knowledge kills it.
You're unlikely to fear what you're good at, so a great way to conquer a fear is to make the commitment to studying and mastering whatever it is you fear. This way you take control of the object of your fear by facing it in baby-sized confrontations. If you're afraid of public speaking, learn to speak. If you're afraid of not knowing what to do in a medical emergency, learn CPR and first aid. If you're one of those people who can't merge when getting on the freeway, get someone who can merge to teach you how to do it.
Steve is intensely growth-oriented. He trained in martial arts, ran the L.A. Marathon, and graduated from college in three semesters with two degrees. He can juggle, count cards at blackjack, and make damn good guacamole. Steve is also a polyphasic sleeper, sleeping just 2-3 hours per day and only 20 minutes at a time. So chances are good that he's awake right now.
Some Universities and Colleges have opened a whole new line of education for today's busy people and for people in smaller cities and towns. You no longer have to sit in a classroom for 8 hours a day in-order to study for a Diploma, Bachelor's Degree, Master's Degree or Doctoral Degrees such as PhD's.
There are many Colleges and Universities in the UK and elsewhere that are now offering online courses. Of course if you're interested in the more traditional distance education courses and programs, there are some well established institutions where you can enrol. These online and distance education courses allow you to complete your degree or diploma course at your own pace. So before you take study leave from work or change your career just because your local college doesn't offer what you're looking for, find out if there are some accredited courses being offered online or through distant learning. You'll be surprised.
To reach the very top of any profession, you need to gain the right qualifications, and with a good degree course or diploma you'll be giving yourself the perfect start in your professional life. You'll learn in your own time, at your own pace and from the comfort of your own home - so whatever your circumstances, you'll have a much better chance of succeeding!
The great thing about online education is that with most colleges and universities, you can enrol at any time of the year. The courses are structured in small, manageable units, so you'll find learning very easy and enjoyable.
A growing number of physical universities as well as newer online only colleges have begun to offer a select set of academic degree programs via the internet. These programs range from Diplomas and Certificates to Doctoral programs with available emphasis in everything from Business Administration to Criminal Justice to Nursing. While some programs require students to attend some campus classes or summer classes, many are completely online. In addition, several universities offer online student support services, such as online advising, student governments and student newspapers.
Computer games and activities are quickly becoming part of the educational experiences at childcare centers and schools across the country. Talk to your children's teachers to see which programs they recommend, and also find out which programs your children are using at school. There may be other programs you can purchase that would coordinate well with these.
Donna Nelson, M.Ed., preschool teacher at the Francis Institute Child Development Center in Kansas City, says, "the best type of computer programs for young children are ones that offer a child many choices and many ways to get to the right answer." And Linda Bell, M.S., Coordinator of the Francis Institute, reminds us that "wise parents and teachers will view computer programs as another tool to use to help children learn - and not use them as a replacement for other developmentally appropriate activities."
Once you get the hang of it, choosing the best software for your kids shouldn't be that difficult. It just requires a little time and research.
- Danbury is a New England city which has retained many traditional values, however, it also has a definite multicultural feel these days and the overall environment is cosmopolitan, representing a variety of cultural and socio-economic demographics. Not surprisingly, the food options are the same, with a variety of restaurants dishing up a feast of cultural delights to suit any budget.